Fab-YOU-lous Fun with Fab-YOU-lous Friends

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They wipe our tears when our hearts are breaking and they make us laugh without even trying.  There are many kinds of relationships in this world but few that are as therapeutic, enjoyable and FabYOUlous as the relationships that we have with our girlfriends.

When was the last time that you spent some quality time bonding with your besties?  If it has been a while, here is a list of some FabYOUlous, girlfriend get-together ideas that you’ll want to get on your calendar PRONTO so that you can celebrate the gift of FabYOUlous friendships!

The Five Friends that Every Woman Has at Some Point in Her Life

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Bad News Betty:  She’s cool, rebellious and dark.  She appeals to that part of our psyche that wishes that we were more cool, rebellious and dark. She smokes, she drinks, she curses and she most definitely does not give a f**k what society thinks of her. If we were living in the movie Grease–she’d be Rizzo…and we’d love her (even if we were secretly a little scared of her.)

Who’s in Your Posse?

You ARE the Company You Keep

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We all have a posse.  Maybe we don’t ride around on horses yelling “yee-haw” together, but we all have those people in our lives that we regularly surround ourselves with. Some members of my posse include my hubby, my girlfriends (also affectionately known as my “broad squad”), my parents and some work associates. These people play a part in my life that is more than just the casual acquaintance.

I’ve heard it said that we will all be judged by the company we keep. That is precisely why I do the very best that I can to surround myself with good people. I also preach this bit of truth to my sons because I think that the people that we associate with can do one of two things for us–they can either lift us higher or they can drag us down. I’ve had both types of people in my life and I’ve learned the hard way how difficult it can be to escape from those individuals whose purpose it seems to be to suck the life out of everyone around them. I’ve also learned how damaging to ones reputation and psyche it can be if one spends too much time in the company of people with questionable character or who are emotionally unstable.

Checklist for a Fab-YOU-lous Partner

846f76_e128c2720208417581987b18c8cb5470Do you know what to look for when it comes to picking the ideal romantic partner?  Do you know the qualities that are truly important when seeking to establish a lasting relationship?  

I’ll admit–I haven’t always been great at picking winners when it comes to love.  I’ve fallen for great looks/no brains, charming personality/no job, great job/self-absorbed…you get the picture.  It wasn’t until my first marriage fell apart that I finally took the time to look at the qualities that truly mattered to me in a partner.

The Wedding Vows that Really Should be Taking

846f76_eaffbcde82cd44bba34cdaf7bc1950c1When it comes to weddings, I’m pretty traditional.  I prefer unity candles over the newly popular sand ceremonies and I have no issues with a woman taking her husband’s last name. I always get teary when the preacher finally says “you may kiss your bride” and I adore cute little flower girls and ring bearers. I also appreciate the simplicity and sincerity of the traditional wedding vows where husbands and wives promise to love each other for better or worse, through sickness and in health and for richer or for poorer.  I do however feel that these vows lack a bit of practicality when it comes to actually living with and loving one person for the rest of your life.  Though I recited these very traditional vows myself when I married my Superman, I now feel like they were somewhat insufficient and I have a few additions that I would now include…

It’s Love in Any Language

846f76_32373d01ec4a42d980109fd4a476c805“I love you.” Everyone loves to hear those three little words, but they can sound even sexier if whispered in another language. The next time you feel like turning up the heat with your honey, try adding a little international flavor to your sweet nothings with these eight different translations.

Dear Husband, Don’t Ask Me to Love You Unconditionally

Because I Won't

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Wow–I wrote that headline, but as I read it, even I think that it sounds a bit harsh.  I feel like I need to insert a disclaimer here to explain just how much I truly do love and adore my husband. He is my rock and I absolutely, fully intend to spend the rest of my days on this earth loving him and only him. I love him completely, faithfully and absolutely. I do not however love him unconditionally.

Now, before you label me as cold hearted (I’m not) or decide that I lack an appreciation for romance (I don’t); let me explain to you why I think that my relationship with my husband is better because we don’t love each other unconditionally and why hearing someone say that they love their significant other unconditionally makes me want to cringe.