29 Questions for 29 Days

February 2016

Asking the right questions can help you discover the mostdirect path to your goal (1)If you’ve studied any philosophy in high school or college, you’ve no doubt heard of The Socratic Method. It is a form of inquiry (named after the classical Greek philosopher, Socrates) that is based upon asking and answering questions to stimulate critical thinking and to illuminate ideas.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been one to ask a lot of questions. I’m sure that this sometimes annoyed my parents and exasperated my teachers, but asking questions is how I learned to satisfy my curiosity about the many interesting things in the world around me. Once I was in college however; my academic advisor taught me the value of asking questions in order to gain understanding not just of the world around me, but also of the things that were going on inside of me. Not only did this help me to finally decide upon a major–it also helped me to become more connected to my inner being and more sure of the direction that I wanted my life to take.
Now, as the years have passed and my life has evolved, I understand the value of asking good questions when it comes to creating a FabYOUlous life. I know from experience, that when things are hard and life seems bleak, it is often because we are not asking ourselves the right questions and therefore not allowing ourselves to see all of the options available to us. I mean think about it–when times are hard and you seek counseling, what is it that counselors do? They ask questions, and in so doing, help you to discover for yourself, the correct path out of your difficult situation.

Motivation Matters

Focus on the Benefits to Help You Reach Your Goals

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At the beginning of the month (which also happened to be the beginning of the year), I posted an article that outlined 10 Secrets of Highly Motivated People. Hopefully, the suggestions in that article helped to give you a jump-start to a FabYOUlous year. If however, your motivation has started to fizzle a bit, I also posted (ten days later) an article on how to combat five common motivation myths (click here to read that post).

I’m going to continue posting weekly motivation related articles for the next several weeks because I feel that this is a subject that can never get enough reinforcement. Even the most, committed and highly motivated individuals will tell you that motivation is something that must be constantly cultivated and renewed.

Personally, I find it most difficult to stay motivated when I am working towards a big and daunting, long-term goal. It goes without saying that the bigger the goal, the more difficult it will be to achieve; and even when the goal is something that I am passionate about and fully committed to accomplishing, these difficulties are often what sideline me and keep me from making forward progress.

How then do we continue to work on our big goals when our motivation begins to wane in the face of the obstacles in our path?

For me, the only real way that I’ve found to maintain my motivation for the long haul is to “keep my eye on the prize” and to focus my attention upon the FabYOUlous benefits that I will enjoy once I obtain my goal, as well as upon the more immediate, short-term benefits that I experience along the way.

In my own experience with setting and achieving goals. I’ve discovered four main reasons to focus upon both the immediate and long-term benefits as a way of combating the stagnation that often occurs in the face of difficulties. These reasons are…

My Word for 2016: SAVOR

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If you’ve read any of my other posts regarding goal setting, you know that I don’t believe in setting New Year’s resolutions. I believe that resolutions focus too much of our attention upon problems that need to be resolved. Instead, I am a firm believer in setting positive intentions for our year and setting strategic goals to help us realize those intentions.

Lately though, I’ve heard a lot of buzz about about selecting a single word to represent your year. At first I thought that there was no way I could possibly pick just one single word to encapsulate all of my hopes and aspirations for the entire year–they are just too many and too varied. After giving it some more thought, however; I did settle on a word that felt right for me. One caveat though–even though I have chosen a single word to by my word for the year; I’m cheating a bit because I’m using the letters in the word to more fully represent my intentions for 2016. My word is SAVOR and here is what the word represents to me…

Fab Factor #8: Altruism

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I am typing this post while sitting in a hotel room in Washington D.C. and it just happens to be Martin Luther King Jr. Day. How serendipitous that I am typing about the value of altruism in our nation’s capital on a day that has now become recognized as a national day of service. Today, as I flew to D.C. for a business trip, my two teenage sons were back in Colorado helping to install free smoke detectors in homes in at-risk neighborhoods as a part of a volunteer project through the American Red Cross. As they were busy making a difference in our town, others all across the nation were joining together on various philanthropic projects to help make their communities and our nation as a whole, a better place for all citizens–something that I believe would make Dr. King extremely proud.

According to Dan Baker, Ph.D. and co-author of the book, What Happy People Know (Rodale Inc., 2003), this notion of altruism (the principle or practice of concern for the welfare of others) has been determined to be one of the top twelve contributing factors to a FabYOUlous life.

10 Simple Steps to Make 2016 Your Most Fab-YOU-lous Year Yet

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It’s not too late! Even if you’ve already blown your resolutions, it’s still only January so there is plenty of time left to knock this year out of the park. If you truly want this year to be different from all of the previous years, however; you will need to think and act differently than you ever have before. We’ve all heard that the definition of crazy is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different outcome–and yet how many of us fall into the same old routines and habits day after day, month after month, year after year?

Well the time has come to KNOCK IT OFF. You say that you want things to be different in your life so…let’s make them DIFFERENT. Implement these 10 trusted life coaching strategies now and next year at this time you’ll be able to look back with pride and gratitude at all of the FabYOUlous things that you accomplished in 2016. Let’s get started…